Member Feature: Barb Torgerson

Editor's note: Each month we'll be featuring a member of the illuminate community so that we can all get to know our writers better. We're excited to "meet" all of you and cheer you on with your writing goals. Give a warm welcome to Barb, our featured member this month.


Who I Am

Hi, I'm Barb. I am a psychotherapist, lover of humans, and I am curious about the human condition. I love writing but had not done much "formal" writing until joining the H&L Writes community. I'm also a mom of 2 amazing kids (27 & 29), have been married 32+ years to an amazing man, and now have a 4-month-old granddaughter. One last tidbit to be vulnerable; I also have bipolar disorder and PTSD and sometimes struggle to go to work. But when I get there my passion for what I do takes over and I'm so glad I get to work with my incredible clients. 

What I Write About

So far, a little of everything. I want to write about things that will help people navigate their internal world, learning to love every part of themselves and have compassion for themselves.

My Favorite Piece of Writing By Me

Here is an excerpt from "Tick Tock Time: A Cautionary Tale" (click here to read the whole post):

He is fighting against time. Time is winning. Bad knees, a heart problem, hearing aids, Parkinson’s. He is losing physical strength as he ages and this means a loss of control. He has relied on control all his life.

He started two well-known businesses and then, after selling them upon retirement, mentored young entrepreneurs. They adored him and he reveled in their adoration. Success was his goal in every area of his life and he thought he had achieved it. He believed in himself and trusted his abilities to perform at the highest levels in both his professional life and his personal life.

In all this, he performed a great sleight of hand on himself, the perception that he was in control of everything. Now time has found out his trick and revealed it to him. He is not able to control everything. It is an incredible shock. He is angry about this revelation and tells everyone he knows, “Don’t ever get old, it is terrible.”

Where You Can Find Me Online

-My blog, Salted Compassion:
-My website, Torgerson Therapy:

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